do you cry in the bathroom at work? let’s face it, most of us are going to get a little emotional once in a while, especially when it comes to work drama and office frustration. I’ve definitely gone to the ladies room for some good old crying. I’ve had little sniffles and big, swingy breaths that warn of the type of cry that take all of the energy out of you. in our office, we’ve got a pretty standard set of washrooms, with the normal sized swinging doors and cracks between each stall. I’ve always had the bad habit of comparing these to the uber private european stalls that are much more enclosed and nice, but I digress. anyways, with these less than private stalls in an office setting, I’ve been pretty frustrated with myself for crying there at all (or the rest of the office for that matter). I’ve never felt like I get the privacy I want or need there. that is until…
I heard a woman crying in the bathroom at my office today and it made me stop. the bathroom nearest my desk is super quiet and only has three stalls, so it’s pretty obvious when anyone is doing anything in those stalls. again, this is why I hate it when I’m unable to keep those big round water drops from falling and have to resort to the bathroom to pull it together. she went on for a while and I wondered what it was all about. the over-curious lady in me wanted to wait for her to come out and then console her in any way I could. but then I stopped short. what would I think if someone were waiting for me to come out to confront me on the crying? someone I don’t know? no, I wouldn’t want that. but what I did appreciate was her unabashed need to hide the crying. it was super obvious and I liked that she wasn’t trying to hide anything.
I kept to myself and left the bathroom just as she was coming out. since it’s not my business and since she was brave enough to let it all out in there, I wasn’t about to call her out on it by talking to her. on the contrary, I think I paid her more respect for letting her do her thing without interruption. and strangely, she taught me something by crying in the bathroom.
listening to another woman cry it out in the bathroom made me rethink my self-imposed shaming on crying in the office. I’m starting to think that I’ve been much too hard on myself and need to loosen up, let it out, and be proud. so what if some of us cry when we’re in the office. it’s a human reaction and we’re obviously feeling something that we need to recognize. so here’s to you, lady in the bathroom who let it all out, thanks for inspiring me to own whatever it is that I’m doing in that less than private space at work. you rock and everything will be okay, just wait.