when I was young, I had the best cheerleader: my mom. she was so supportive, funny, and positive that I grew up believing I could do just about anything. even today, as a full blown adult, I can count her as a huge cheerleader of mine. seeing what a positive impact her support made on me, I’ve tried my best to pass on those vibes to everyone I know: friends, coworkers, and strangers. you never know when your words will help someone.
of course, there’s one very important thing I’m missing here when I talk about being a good cheerleader for others – it’s learning to be your own cheerleader! too many of us spend a huge amount of time telling others how awesome they are only to fall short on encouraging ourselves. and as good of a friend and supporter as you are, if you can’t cheer yourself on, you’re doing as well as you might have thought. so what does being a cheerleader for yourself mean?
first, being your own cheerleader means believing in yourself. we all have those rough days that feel like getting punched over and over, and sometimes, our cheerleaders aren’t there by our sides. that’s when you need to step in and cheer yourself on. the chatter going on in your brain is, in my opinion, the most powerful strength (or weakness) in determining your success and happiness. say you’re working on a challenging project at work that’s got you hunched over your laptop, face-palming, and otherwise feeling totally overwhelmed. imagine the voice inside your head. if it’s strong and unwavering, you’re much more likely to move forward.
second, ask yourself for just a little bit more. when I work out, I like to push myself just beyond the point where I’m starting to get exhausted. it’s the hardest part of the workout, but if I can get through it, I’m much more pleased with myself afterwards. and guess what? the next time I work out, I know full well that I’m capable of what I did before and much more. so when you’re on a run or when you think you’ve reached the end of your rope in a work negotiation, ask yourself for a little bit more. your other cheerleaders would do just the same, you should too.
no matter your age, career, or family life, if you can learn to be your own cheerleader, you’re not only giving back to yourself, but you’re giving back to everyone else around you. the more you believe in yourself, the more you encourage others to do the same. indirectly, you’re passing on positive energy to others. be your own cheerleader.